Sexuality and Intimacy

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Sexuality and Intimacy

Our therapists works with clients to explore sexuality in a safe and supportive way that can support the client on their own journey towards intimacy with self and others. Sexuality can form a major part of our identity. Those who do not relate to society’s heteronormative ideals may be faced with a number of challenges. They may face discrimination, and many have reported bullying in school, at home and the workplace. Being LGBTQ+ does not lead to mental health issues but dealing with adverse reactions can.

Intimacy is important because humans are social creatures who thrive on close personal relationships with others. While intimacy connotes images of romantic relationships, it can also occur in close friendships, parent-child relationships, and siblinghood.

Sexuality is not about who you have sex with, or how often you have it. Sexuality is about your sexual feelings, thoughts, attractions and behaviours towards other people. You can find other people physically, sexually or emotionally attractive, and all those things are a part of your sexuality.

Sexuality is diverse and personal, and it is an important part of who you are. Discovering your sexuality can be a very liberating, exciting and positive experience.

Some people experience discrimination due to their sexuality. If someone gives you a hard time about your sexuality, it’s good to talk to someone about it.

Sometimes, it can take time to figure out the sexuality that fits you best. And your sexuality can change over time. It can be confusing; so don’t worry if you are unsure.

You might be drawn to men or to women, to both or to neither. There is no right or wrong – it’s about what’s right for you. And while there are common terms to describe different types of sexuality, you don’t have to adopt a label to describe yourself.

Types of Intimacy

· Experiential Intimacy: When people bond during leisure activities. People may “sync up” their actions in teamwork or find themselves acting in unison.

· Emotional Intimacy: When people feel safe sharing their feelings with each other, even uncomfortable ones.

· Intellectual Intimacy: When people feel comfortable sharing ideas and opinions, even when they disagree.

· Sexual Intimacy: When people engage in sensual or sexual activities. When people use the word “intimacy,” they are often referring to this type.

Dilemmas

Intimacy can help you feel more loved and less alone. But intimacy also requires a great deal of trust and vulnerability, and you may find this frightening. Many people struggle with intimacy, and fear of intimacy is a common concern in therapy.

People can fear intimacy due to a variety of reasons. Some of the most common causes include

Abandonment Issues: You may fear that once you become attached to someone, that individual will leave.

Fear of Rejection: You might worry that once you reveal any flaws or imperfections, the other person will no longer want to be with you.

Control Issues: You may fear losing your independence as you become emotionally connected to others.

Past Abuse: A history of childhood abuse, especially sexual abuse, may make it difficult for you to trust others.

Sexuality and Intimacy